relaxing night out
went to a hole in the wall restaurant last night called tlapazola with two good friends- e and c. first thing we notice is that our party is probably about 15-20 years younger than the rest of the clientele. nevertheless, the food was quite good. advertised as a fusion restaurant adding california twists to traditional mexican cuisine, the chefs do not do anything too daring. we shared a masa pancake appetizer with shrimp, essentially pancake stacked with greens in a light sauce and broiled shrimp. i ordered the chicken chile relleno (i’ve spent the past 3 years looking for chile relleno as good as the one i had in new mexico) and my friend ordered the lobster and cheese enchilada (excellent), and Alaskan halibut in two sauces- a mole sauce and caper sauce (also quite good). then we topped it off with caramel flan.
over margaritas, i tried keeping the conversation light or at least off of me. . honestly, i am starting to get tired of explaining what happened with the ex.
so instead we talked about the economics department, about my friend’s 5/6 year long-distance relationship with her boyfriend, etc. after dinner, e and i dropped c off, she had to get up early. then we went to downtown culver city to a cozy hotel bar and spent two hours nursing cocktails and talking about relationships, about falling in and out of love, and taking risks.
an interesting question regarding personal philosophies regarding love arose. is it better to play it safe and stay in a relationship for the sake of commitment and compatibility or should one take risks and hold out for that love of your life? each path has its rewards and drawbacks. probably to some degree, the path one chooses is determined by how risk-averse he or she is. i’d like to think that the latter is possible for everyone, but it requires patience, enduring more pain along the way, and probably luck doesn’t hurt.
i think the reality involves some combination of the two. i think there is some one out there that i will believe to be the most amazing man in the world, with which there is chemistry along with compatibility. but to make the relationship be truly successful, I think you need all three: chemistry, compatibility, and commitment. . ha ha, I guess the three c’s.
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i definately agree that once you make the decision to marry, then that's it. . there will be times where the love is gone, you are annoyed or angry with your spouse, and you feel as though you hate them. . but you have committed "for better or worse", so you have to make it work.
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