local grocer
went to the local grocer sunday night after getting a drink with k-flo to pick up some milk and cereal and food to bring to work.
i have been going there a lot b/c it's open 24 hours and they have great post-work out snacks. it's a korean run place and i recognize most of the workers there. . .sunday night there was a different guy working the register.
the conversation went like this:
Old Korean Guy (OKJ): (after looking at me for a few seconds too long) you japanese?
V: nope
OKJ: what are you?
V: vietnamese
OKJ: (appreciatively) ahh!
V: (glancing around awkwardly)
OKJ: (proceeds to ring up my items. He pauses and motions to a chicken wrap.) no charge
V: onyahasayo. it's the only word i know in korean.
OKJ: how do you know korean?
V: i used to have a korean boyfriend. ok, well have a good night.
so, i am having a moral dilemma. . why was OKJ being nice to me. . after going to that grocer for 8 months, i have never received preferential treatment. . . did i remind him of his daughter/granddaugther? more likely, it is because i am a cute asian girl? was i wrong to accept something for free?
i've become increasingly aware of how it is possible for women to use their looks to their advantage. smile at a boy and he'll help you carry something, open a door, etc. i never want to be that type of woman, at the same time, i appreciate gallantry.
2 comments:
tough call. but don't forget that you and your sisters are earning $0.75 for every $1 a man gets for the same work. so even if you take every chicken and get every available second of free labor, it likely won't settle the score in purely pecuniary terms.
i guess it boils down to this: if you don't use your sexuality to your advantage, do you think that means the world will stop using it as a weapon against you?
~AH
I think the line's easy to draw, V: don't be raising your hemlines to get what you want out of we males (it just might work), but don't be turning down what's readily offered on account of scrupules.
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