compliments

last night vk came over for dinner. she brought the groceries and helped me cook. an old standby- broiled trout stuffed with lemon and bay leaves served with aioli sauce which we paired with an endive and pear salad. . yummy. .

in any case, the discussion turned to compliments. more specifically, what does it mean when a boy does not give his girl enough compliments. i know a girl who is simply gorgeous, stunning actually, always turns heads when she's out. yet her boy never acknowledges her appearance, rarely tells her she's pretty/beautiful/etc. is this because he is insecure and doesn't want her to realize that she is hot and then go out and find someone else? perhaps she will cling to him more because she's insecure. . regardless, it creates an unhealthy cycle. the girl feels unsure about her desirability, afterall, shouldn't the boy who she's with- who claims to love and adore her, affirm his attraction and interest in her? so then, not being able to get this attention at home, it creates a need to get noticed and praised by others outside the relationship.

vk then proposed that on the flip side, being overly complimentary can get annoying or seem desperate. . . i don't know if i agree. i think as long as it is sincere, girls appreciate being complimented. . .

so lesson to all the boys, if you've got a woman you love and you want to keep her, treat her like a princess and let her know you appreciate her. not just in the looks department but in other areas too. . it's really that simple, yet not enough guys do it. at the end of the day, most women are insecure at worst and have moments of insecurity at best and need to be told that we are beautiful.